Kamu was courting his wife for 3 years, before marriage. They have got a cute little baby boy who celebrated his first birthday last month. There were many instances when Kamu used to lament about his bad decision of marriage - so called LOVE MARRIAGE after loving the person for 3 years.
John's was an arranged one. He has a daughter who is 4 and a half years old. Married for 5 years. He cried on my shoulder for having got married.
So did Sankar, Madhu, Ganesh and the list go on.
Is marriage a necessity? Why do we think that people who love each other should get married? Why should we marry at all? Why should we even think about marrying a person about whom we don't know anything except their physical appearance, which would fade away after a few years? If you are an Indian from a very conservative family, you will understand how things work at home as far as marriage is concerned.
Do you think that marriage will save people from AIDS, STD etc? This is what my elders say about marriage. When a man has sex with just one woman, throughout his lifetime, then he can be saved from sexual diseases.
Would we have less number of single parents if people get married? No. I have seen many divorcees and legally separated single parents.
Why would people who got divorced for the first time, think about marrying again? Sex - YESSSS!
Is it sex that drives the singles to think about marrying, even a stranger? Do they think that there would always be one in the reserve on the bed whenever they want it? I think sex plays a major role in any marriage. I know many of my friends who thought that they would have a blast on bed, whenever they wanted to, if they get married. But later they actually had to work hard to achieve their goals at home or outside.
I want the married as well as singles to post their comments in favour of their views.
Come on guys, I know that you are all struggling out there in the field. Use this chance to vent your feelings. lol.
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ReplyDeleteWhats this ?
Dont you think this would create a big list of commenters.
Though I feel there would be
more comments from all your friends,there is no real answer for this. Its more of individualistic in nature, and depends on ones own experience.
I wont agree marriage is only for sex, its beyond that. Whether you are married or have live-in relationship, you tend to break off if the two minds involved do not have harmony.
Just like in any other relationship its always give and take, flexibility, greater understading. Most of relationship fails when the ego plays a role, some day, both decide to sit and discuss, reconcilation is possible.
Leave alone HIV, STD etc., the committment wont be there if there is no agreement. Agreement could be any sort, it could be called marriage or Live-in and whatever name you give it.
What difference would it make if you keep changing partner at your will without any committment and think in the days of retirement one needs not sex real companionship, who in the lot would come and be with you till u go to graves..
Think, I am sure more answers to come..
Vijay,
ReplyDeletei would love to get comments from everyone.Lets check what others has to say about MARRIAGE. But finally the comments will not be the individual's PERCEPTION, but purely from their own experience. I want to know THAT. Come on guys. Start sharing your experiences with me as well as others.
Love u all, as always.
Uma
Uma,
ReplyDeleteIt would be a topic with different views and they will have own justification for that.
But Marriage and sex can not be compared.
Marriage is very much Sacred like any other good friendship but Sex is a momentarily feeling. How can we compare this two?
With Lots of Love
Ajith
Ajith,
ReplyDeleteDoes that mean you don't have to marry for sex?
Uma.
Mahi,
ReplyDeleteOf Course sex plays a part in married life that is not everything. Marriage has got a cultural value and sanity of that relationship. Both become responsible together to lead a family ahead,to teach the values of life to a new generation of your blood.
This is a lengthy topic to discuss.
Let us all think good and positive.
God Bless
Ajith
Ajith,
ReplyDeleteYou mean to say that its okay to go out of the marital relationship to fulfill your sexual desires? Because i have friends who used to complain that their wives has lost interest in sex and that is the reason they tend to search for an extra marital relationship. One even asked me whether i am ready for a short term relationship because his wife is pregnant and expecting her delivery to happen after three months. In that case, what is "sacred" and "cultural value" in a marriage?
Enlighten me pls.
Uma.
Why don't you guys prefer to post your comments here, instead of writing to me in private? Don't want to spoil your present state of life? LOL.
ReplyDeleteMahi,
ReplyDeleteI was expecting some comments from ur frnds ....no other friends of Uma dared to comment on this blog?
Why so Uma?
Ajith
@Ajith - probably they don't want to get into trouble. :)
ReplyDeletehi,
ReplyDeleteUma reading ur posts ... looks good
Thanks micks :). But couldn't find anything about yourself. May i know about you?
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